There are a few list, but its hard to figure out how reliable a homeserver is without direct experience.
Honestly your server doesnt have to be that close to you to have good latency. Any server in western europe can have <30ms ping if its well connected. The more important thing is not having too much latency jitter. For messaging latency is completely irrelevant as long as its below 200ms or something. For calls using element-call it is more important but even there 100ms wouldnt be an issue as long as its not jittery.
https://servers.joinmatrix.org/
This one has a bit more information on each server than some other lists.
Just pick any server thats up to date that doesnt have any weird rules.
https://tatsumoto-ren.github.io/matrix/
This one has a lot of servers but no .is and only one .ie
Of course there might be some with different TLDs that are still in iceland or ireland but the actual server location is not necessarily visible to users.
There are a few list, but its hard to figure out how reliable a homeserver is without direct experience.
Honestly your server doesnt have to be that close to you to have good latency. Any server in western europe can have <30ms ping if its well connected. The more important thing is not having too much latency jitter. For messaging latency is completely irrelevant as long as its below 200ms or something. For calls using element-call it is more important but even there 100ms wouldnt be an issue as long as its not jittery.
https://servers.joinmatrix.org/ This one has a bit more information on each server than some other lists. Just pick any server thats up to date that doesnt have any weird rules.
https://tatsumoto-ren.github.io/matrix/ This one has a lot of servers but no .is and only one .ie
Of course there might be some with different TLDs that are still in iceland or ireland but the actual server location is not necessarily visible to users.